Unfinished For Now

On the Right Track My days of being a professional interviewee are over.  Since moving to North Carolina, I’ve haven’t worked, and the transition hasn’t been easy.  One would think that since I had all the time in the world, I would be much more productive than I’ve been.  That happens they say, when you suddenly stop what you’ve been doing – you lose that momentum and that is what I did the minute I said my farewell to my last job. I tried to find humorous things about my jo

Pool Cues Joining a neighborhood pool can be quite rewarding and offers a strong feeling of community if you understand the sub-culture of the club.  When the weather is as beastly hot as it is today, it offers a welcomed respite of refreshing coolness to the overheated body. But, when you are uncomfortable to venture to a new place where it feels like everyone knows every other person but you, it can be overwhelmingly difficult to go.  Our neighborhood pool is actually two l

A Tale of My Two Cities I am living a double life – I’ll admit that.  My life revolves around two locations, Raleigh, NC and Huntington, NY and  am teetering tenuously  between the two.  I really love one, painfully so, and attempting to love another and find I am caught in the middle.  How can I love one place down to the bone and not feel a sense of guilt for learning to love the other?   Huntington is part of my heart and soul yet, Raleigh, is now where I reside.  Still no

Can Love be found in other places? Valentine’s Day is lurking about and landed once again this Thursday morning.  I never enjoyed Valentine’s Day, even now, when my life is such that I found my life partner to celebrate it with.  When I was young and single, the idea of this ‘holiday’, just like New Year’s Eve brought about tremendous stress, denial and utter disappointment, all because I was unlucky in love.  I focused on what wasn’t in my life rather than what was present a

Separated By Miles – A Sister from Another Mister (& Misses) Putting it out there to meet new people -from fitting into to a new community or group of friends while trying to re-establish your identity when you are not sure of who or where you are anymore has its challenges.  When I first arrived in Raleigh, I really didn’t know where to start.  I had thought that people would be knocking at my door and inviting me over for sweet tea but that didn’t happen immediately.  I sup

Oh the Humidity! I knew it would be bad, I knew it would take getting used to, but I didn’t think that it would last this long.  What am I talking about?  It’s that pesky annoying byproduct of the weather called humidity, of course.  Being nestled in the middle of the state of North Carolina, my naïve self thought that the humidity was only present in and around the coastal areas.  Boy was I wrong.  The 80% relative humidity each day has wreaked havoc on my once smooth curly

On the Road Again Driving is second nature – after all, I’ve been driving my entire adult life and sometimes when driving around my home town, I feel as though I am on autopilot, knowing where to go and don’t have to think about it.  However, driving in North Carolina has presented some challenges, some of which are as simple as roads being unfamiliar, darkened highways at night and some things you would not expect like getting on the road legally. Here we are, in this unfami

On this day After reading many friends’ posts on Facebook, each one noting what they were doing on September 11th, eleven years ago today, I too find that I need express myself.  It is respectful acknowledgement of what happened to us as a nation and individually.  Now, more than in years passed, I find that I am more connected to New York than ever.  It’s ironic that I am no longer a resident of New York State, but in my heart, I will always be a New Yorker and have such a s

Connecting the Dots People try to make connections in every way possible – following instructions, matching checks drawn to those not cashed on your account, playing games, looking for landmarks when navigating an unfamiliar location and yes, meeting new people.  The last I think, is the hardest for some and for others, it’s effortless.  When I first went off to college and then in my early 20s, I broke out of my shell and made the effort to meet new people. In college, then

Starting Over – The Bad, The Ugly and Just a Little Good I never thought I had it in me to start over – to pick up my life and move somewhere else.  It sounds like a divorce and it is – I was divorcing my life as I knew it. After uprooting my life  2 months ago,  I frequently ask myself, what the hell did I do?!  Sometimes I wake up hoping that this was just one of those weird dreams that leave you feeling as if you experienced it but on some cognitive level you know you will